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The “terrible twos” are that stage when parents are met by frequent resistance — or outright rebellion — from their toddlers. This can be a trying time for parents who simply want their child to do what they are asked. Understanding the psychology behind the terrible twos is the first step to getting through this phase.
While most toddlers will enter this stage of development between age two and three, others will start a little earlier or a little later. The terrible twos are a time when your toddler may yell, hit, throw tantrums and say “no” to anything you ask. The first and most important thing to understand about the terrible twos is that they are totally normal. At the tender age of two, a toddler’s body hasn’t caught up yet with their brain. They have a clear idea of how they feel or what they want to say, but can’t get the words out, or their body doesn’t cooperate. This is very frustrating for toddlers, and the terrible twos is the result.
At age two, toddlers are starting to develop a sense of themselves as individuals, so they want to assert their independence. This is why, as parents, you will hear the word “no” a lot!
However, there are things that parents can do to make the transition through the terrible twos a bit easier, for themselves and for their little ones. Routines are important — try to keep regular bedtimes and bathtimes. Don’t get in arguments with your toddler, remain calm but be firm with them when they are having a temper tantrum. Use “time outs” if needed. To help foster their burgeoning sense of independence, give them some choices, such as which color shirt or socks to wear.
By being patient and understanding that this is a normal phase that they will outgrow, you can successfully tame the terrible twos.
